Don’t fall for it: there’s nothing wrong with staying in touch via the dating site.Scammers are good at being charming and saying all the right things—and they start it fast.They have a lot of victims to get through, so they’re going to try to move things along as quickly as possible.They’ll hit you with the full force of their charm; they’ll say sweet things, compliment you a lot, and talk about how perfect you are for each other within the first couple weeks.Think about if you would find it strange for someone to be acting like this if you just met in real life.If someone was expressing over-the-top love and passion within a couple weeks, you’d be worried.I even went to Maine to hike with a guy I had met online. And I am thankful that I met him in real life because if I had met him online I would have written him off without a second thought at the first viewing of his profile picture.
We were texting regularly and when I traveled north, we would have a meal or go on a hike, but really we were just friends.
Scammers also often list themselves as widowed (especially with a child), self-employed, or working overseas.
They might also say that they live near you, but that they’re away; they could be in another country on a trip or for work, but they’ll almost certainly be somewhere far away where you can’t meet them.
When I entered the dating world at the tender age of 47, after 18 years of marriage, I had no idea what to do.
When I was young, we never ‘dated.’ We hung out, fooled around and then started ‘going out.’ Those relationships usually started because of mutual acquaintances and often involved a messy dissolution, as a result, when they ended. The wide, wide world of the Internet makes online dating both a wondrous process full of choice and a nightmare that seems in many ways to put the cart before the horse.