It's not fair to the kids if you aren't going to stick around.I recommend waiting at least 3 months before the introduction.Also, my friend’s ex had a kid that always wanted to sleep in his mom’s bed and that would be a problem for me. I want all the perks that come with a grown-up relationship.” “A lot of my friends are divorced and one guy even has a kid after a one-night stand.
But some of the things they said or did were NOT funny. You will show me the same respect that you show women like your mother or teachers." BAM. You'll know when it's the right time -- mostly because you'll feel like your head is going to explode. Since it's his house, the tween will not realize the awkwardness of the situation.This is not always the case, but that's another blog post.For now, my advice is to also play the waiting game with the ex -- take your time before you meet him or her. Realize you are taking someone else's child into your life.Overnight, I was thrown into a brave, new world -- one that involved a tween.I scoured the Internet for advice about dating people with kids. I got the same advice from multiple people: "Be yourself." OK, what next? We were on and off, and it wasn't the healthiest relationship I've ever been in.My friend dated a single mom and she was always breaking plans because of childcare issues, or suggesting he just come over and watch a movie. Maybe she’s like my friend and had a baby after just dating someone. I dated a single mom who had a lot of issues with her ex and I found that I got sucked into a lot of drama.I’m young and I want to have fun, out in the world, not be tied down to someone’s living room while her kid sleeps in the bedroom. I admire my friend for being a stand-up guy and taking care of his son, so my opinion of a woman doing the same … Also, her ex had issues with me being around his daughter because he was threatened by the relationship that was forming.Take from it what you will: Wait Even though my boyfriend was eager to introduce me to his kiddo early on, we waited a long time before it actually happened.You have to make sure you're serious and your partner is serious before you bring the kiddos into the mix. I never saw myself dating a man with kids until I met my boyfriend Rob over a year ago. It was absolutely nothing like I expected it to be. Why deal with a baby daddy when I barely felt like a grown up myself?