“People said, ‘You’ll never meet a man line dancing — it’s mostly women,’ but I met a man who loved to dance.” Betty, who met her current guy Verle online, says staying positive is key — as is staying active.
“Don’t give up, but don’t sit around waiting, either,” says Betty.
Joan Price, the 66-year-old author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After Sixty, says she met her “great love” just as she considered throwing in the towel. “I still met interesting men, but they would look over my head at the young, fertile women behind me.
After a few years of that, women tend to think, ‘Well, it’s over.’ I wasn’t resigned to that, but I was considering it.” But then a handsome stranger danced into her life — literally.
What advice does she give singles who feel left out of the love loop?
Treat advises couples — particularly older couples — to sit down and hash out their respective roles and responsibilities before they try to combine households. If two 50-year-olds are getting married, they need to know how the mortgage is going to be paid and whose paintings will be hung and how each one defines their individual space. They just need to be able to probe it and talk about it openly together without getting upset.” Revvell, a 60-year-old natural health educator who married for the first time at age 55, says having another person around all the time was a big adjustment for her.“I love it, but I’m also occasionally shocked by stuff,” laughs Stephen. Those doll-sized pieces of clothing don’t even look like something a human could fit into. Online dating has grown in popularity to the point where there is almost no social stigma attached to it. Tell us what you think in the boards: would you date someone with a great personality who you weren’t sexually attracted to? t age 53, Betty, a never-married X-ray technician from Coeur d’Alene, ID, was growing discouraged.“I even had a 90-year-old who came to me and said, ‘I’ve never been married before and I want to get married.’” She’d fallen love with an 81-year-old man.Apparently, love really can sneak up on you when you least expect it.Tellingly, Newsweek retracted its much-touted claim about women over 40 having a better chance of getting killed by a terrorist than getting hitched. Stephen Treat, CEO and Director of the Council for Relationships in Philadelphia, says the topic of late-in-life love comes up a lot in his practice.“I’ve talked to many, many couples about this,” he says.“I was teaching a dance class and this gorgeous white-haired man came in,” Price says.“And once he fixed his ocean blue eyes on me, I was a goner.” Price, then 57, began a slow courtship with Robert, age 64: “On our first date we kissed like a couple of teenagers.” The two were married four years later.