I thought my experiences with Tinder dating in different cities would be different, but weirdly, I found it was totally the same in all three cities.When I first set up my Tinder profile, I wasn't sure if I should make my disability super obvious in my photos.He was late for a dinner party one stormy evening in February.Marietta was among the dozen or so guests already seated at the table when he finally arrived, half frozen, snow still clinging to his hair.
She's single, and has lived in and dated on Tinder in three different cities — Los Angeles, Boston, and New York — and spoke with about what it's really like to Tinder date when you're paraplegic.So I felt the same way about my online dating profile.The first Tinder date I went on, I didn't tell the guy that I was disabled before we got together.And I don't think it's their fault, but I did see that there were more people than I realized who felt that way. About a week after I got off Tinder, I reconnected with a guy I met a year ago at a restaurant who I was immediately drawn to at the time, and we later ended up going on a fantastic date and now we're kind of seeing where it goes. I was in a car accident when I was 5, when my family and I were coming home from ice skating a couple of days after Christmas, and it resulted in a spinal cord injury, so I've been in a wheelchair for a long time now.I've usually ended up dating guys who I met in real life and my being in a wheelchair was usually never a problem in my dating life until I started meeting guys on Tinder. A., then moved to Boston for work, and now I live in New York City.You seem like there's something wrong." He just said, "I just don't know how to talk to someone in a wheelchair.I just don't know what to do." And I said, "Well, I don't know what to tell you, because we've already been talking for two weeks, so the conversation shouldn't be any more difficult at this point," and then just asked for the check. At the end of the night, he told me, "Well, you're a very nice person," and I said, "Yeah, OK, good luck with everything," and started to leave.I tried putting it in my profile and taking it out in an attempt to feel out what was the best thing to do and what felt right to me as a person.And ultimately, for the most part, I ended up choosing not to use photos where my disability was obvious.