I’m not in search for “great people” — lots of people are great — I’m in search of compatibility.
Just trust that my personal experiences have lead me to this conclusion, and not some sappy line in a self-help book.We might say that we would never date a political conservative, say, or an atheist.But if a potential match has other appealing qualities, most of us will agree to give the person a shot.Between dates, they completed a two-minute questionnaire about their feelings toward the person they’d just met. It was easy to predict people who were generally friendly and people who were exceptionally picky.The researchers later compared the algorithm’s predictions to participants’ actual reports of romantic desire. But the machines had zero ability to match a specific person with another person.”Right off the bat, this means that I am going to be forced to do all the work. I’ve entertained the “hi” when I was a little younger and a lot more foolish.This pisses me off, because unlike many online, I do the work.Joel, who teaches at the University of Utah, didn’t seem surprised that machines performed so poorly.“People agree to go on dates with people who have everything they say they don’t want,” she said. Attraction doesn’t play nice with preferences.” For example, her previous research has shown that three in four people will agree to go on a date with someone who has an undesirable trait they consider a deal-breaker.We all get to decide how we use our energy, and since I don’t have control over others or the cosmos, it makes sense to me to put my energy towards what I can do from within. However, every few months, I’m like “oh yeah, I’m lonely.” So I reactivate my online dating profile for the millionth time.I update my pictures, and I edit my descriptions because it can always be better.