When it comes to the subject of love we always hope that there are no real significant barriers to its success.In our hearts, if not in our heads, we’re convinced that love will always trump practical concerns such as money, social class, race and even gender. And what about age as it relates to older women involved with younger men?Hey, weighing your options is the mature thing to do, after all.Of course, you don't have to be an adult to pressure someone into sex. The difference is that older men tend to have a lot more sexual experience than a 16-year-old boy who has more experience with bad amateur porn videos above all else.
And then there’s also the concern about one’s looks.It’s really not hard to see the appeal in dating an older guy when you’re a teenager.You’re not really feelin’ the fact that dudes in your grade still can’t manage to wear deodorant every day and they still think that poop jokes are as good as humor gets (who doesn’t love the occasional poop joke but come on).Reason #2: The whole, “slave master” guilt trip is applied almost exclusively to black women.Many of us have been vulnerable to the guilt-tripping about how us dating a white man is an insult to our ancestors, slave women who were chained to beds and raped.These laws exist for a reason, and they're there to protect young people from predatory jerks. If you and your friends are meeting up with dudes in their 20s and you're trying to keep it on the DL, you might be worried about getting caught.And honestly, as cool as forbidden love sounds, it's often not always worth the anxiety. Think about it like this: You might be mature for your age but is he immature for his? If women his own age aren't giving him the time of day, then that means something.Power dynamics can be really iffy when you're dating an older dude. Do you think that your hobbies and opinions aren't valued and are seen as childish? But it's even freakier if he is specifically attracted to high school girls. Are you going to make this dude the star of your cheesy #MCM?Is this dude you're with literally in a position of power over you, like in a teacher or coach type of way? Are you going to go to school dances with this guy?Are you going to introduce him to your friends without being worried that half of them are going to want to call the police?One thing is certain: As immature as dudes your age can be, there's only one time to have a teen romance and that's now.