Besides, when you tell a woman she’s beautiful, chances are you’re not.On the other hand, more general compliments seem to work well: is almost always used to describe the way something or someone looks, and you can see how that works out. After all, the way you choose to start your initial message to someone is the “first impression of your first impression.” The results surprised us: perform better, bucking the general “be literate” rule.Not That: Ditch all friends, pets, and kids (whether they're yours or not)—they can confuse or scare guys. We analyzed over 500,000 first contacts on our dating site, Ok Cupid.Not That: Assuming you're not online dating to score one-night stands, stay away from even inadvertently seductive names, such as "Hot Chick" or "Good Time Girl"—you'll attract the wrong kind of guy.And nix the numbers; they make you look uncreative. ) Finally, for safety reasons, don't divulge your real name, first or last. You're not "fun." You "like hiking, cocktail testing, and traveling overseas." (If this seems obvious, it's not: So many profiles are crazy-vague—and guys gloss right over them and move on.) Do This: List three to five qualities that are important to you, but leave out what's essential in any relationship, like "honest" or "trustworthy." Stick to specific traits like "family-oriented" or "athletic." Not That: Don't be negative and list the qualities you're not interested in.You're smart, cute, and (if you do say so yourself) super-fun to spend an evening with. why aren't any great guys responding to your or Ok Cupid profile?
RELATED: 6 Dating Rules to Break Do This: Mash up two hobbies or descriptors, like Sporty Smile or Travel Buff, or make up a clever word like Unconventionelle.Talking about specific things that interest you or that you might have in common with someone is a time-honored way to make a connection, and we have proof here that it works.We’re presenting just a smattering: in fact every “niche” word that we have significant data on has a positive effect on messaging., no doubt because of its adverbial meaning of “to a fair degree; moderately” also helps male messages.Our program looked at keywords and phrases, how they affected reply rates, and what trends were statistically significant.The result: a set of rules for what you should and shouldn’t say when introducing yourself. Let’s go: Netspeak, bad grammar, and bad spelling are huge turn-offs.Mentioning your religion helps you, but, paradoxically, it helps you most if you have no religion.We know that’s going to piss a lot of people off, and we’re more or less tongue-in-cheek with this advice, but it’s what the numbers say.In fact, it’s smarter to use no traditional salutation at all (which earns you the reply rate of 27%) and just dive into whatever you have to say than to start with all did very well.Maybe they set a more casual tone that people prefer, though I have to say, You had me at ‘what’s up’ doesn’t quite have the same ring to it.Do This: Keep it brief—no more than three paragraphs. It makes you seem close-minded and hung up on previous failed relationships.Do This: Use a head-and-shoulders shot of yourself as your first photo—what you look like will be more apparent in an initial search.