Received Date: June 16, 2015 Accepted Date: August 19, 2015 Published Date: August 26, 2015 Citation: Valentin M, Sasha M, Theodora M, Cecilia M, Chrysostome ZJ, et al.(2015) Family Functioning and Parental Invalidation of Depressed Adolescents with Borderline Personality Disorder Traits. doi:10.4172/2375-4494.1000235 Copyright: © 2015 Valentin M, et al.
And given that our feelings are our guides - every feeling carries an important message - then we're missing out on that essential system.Although he knows that they love him, he does not feel their love.No matter how much love Zach receives, inside he feels disconnected and alone.When Zach walks into a meeting at work or when he walks down the hall of his daughter’s school, he knows, deep down, that he walks alone.Zach pushes his feelings down and away so that they will not trouble others or himself. He could realize that he is worth knowing and loving.But if this is how Zach’s parents handle things , he will grow up with the effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).Let’s take a look at what is actually happening in this seemingly everyday incident. Conversely, invalidation is one of the most damaging forms of emotional abuse.They leave the conversation feeling much different than at the start, questioning themselves.Adult Zach At age thirty, Zach is a likeable fellow. But Zach cannot see this himself because he does not know his true self. Although he is an outwardly successful man, Zach is not certain, deep down, that he is worth seeing or that he is worth knowing.He is sometimes baffled by others’ reactions to him. Zach is a stand-up guy who takes care of his wife and children, and they love him very much.