Some trans people have significant body dysphoria (where certain parts of their bodies can cause them incredible amounts of distress.Interacting with these parts of the body may be traumatic. [Andy Samberg:] I know just what you mean, my moms been so sad and gray. [Andy Samberg:] Give it to my mom d - d- d - d- d - d - doggystyle [Justin Timberlake:] This the perfect plan [Andy Samberg:] For a perfect Mothers Day [Justin Timberlake:] They have to rename this one [Both:] All up under the covers day Cause I'm a Mother Lover You're a Mother Lover We should fuck each others mothers [Justin Timberlake:] Fuck each others moms I'm pushin that lady Where you came out as a baby Ain't no doubt that shit is crazy [Justin Timberlake:] Fuckin' each others moms [Andy Samberg:] Break it down It would be my honor to be your new step-father [Justin Timberlake:] It would be my honor to be your new step-father [Andy Samberg:] While your in my mother make me another brother. [Justin Timberlake:] My mother loves bubble bath with chamomile [Both:] Straight up! [Justin Timberlake:] My moms been so forlorn ever since my daddy left. Cause every Mothers Day needs a Mothers Night If doing it is wrong, I don't wanna be right I'm callin on you cause I can't do it myself To me you're like a brother, so be my mother lover They blessed us both with the gift of life She brought you in this world so Imma sex her right This is the second best idea that we've ever had The choice can be no other Be my mother lover Motherlover [Andy Samberg:] Oh dang.. [Justin Timberlake:] Word [Andy Samberg:] My dad can't satisfy her in the bedroom ever since he passed away. And I'm in your mother I'll never use a rubber [Justin Timberlake:] OH! Getting on the same page and establishing what each person wants and needs is just a really good first step if you’re looking to get busy!
This is especially true for folks who may be looking to have sex with someone who is transgender.
It’s not the best idea to ask your partner to describe what their body or body parts look like or what surgeries they have had or plan on having. Generally speaking, your partner will disclose what they feel is the pertinent information for you to have about their body – and by focusing on how you can enjoy yourselves, instead of interrogating them about their anatomy, you respect the person instead of reducing them to their genitalia. Also recognize that these boundaries may change during a sexual encounter.
Instead, allow them to disclose what they feel comfortable sharing on their own terms. Ask your partner where they like to be touched and where they don’t like to be touched; know which sexual acts are hot and which are off-limits. Maybe they told you before that oral sex is great, but decide during the encounter that it isn’t feeling good.
Sometimes, they avoid the conversation altogether because they’re afraid of saying the wrong thing.
However, if we don’t talk about it first, it’s far too easy to cross boundaries, make hurtful assumptions, and turn what should’ve been a sexy, fun encounter into a serious bummer.