Now that we’ve solved all your follow-up woes, all you have to do is be incredibly handsome and charming, and you’ll have more second dates than you can handle.Let us know immediately via text, whatever happens.If you are doing the asking, it is considerate for you to offer the location, but be open if she suggests another locale.Brenda Scottsdale is a licensed psychologist, a six sigma master black belt and a certified aerobics instructor.Usually if I feel like the first date went well, I’ll ask if they’d like to get together again. Lastly, I’ve been going by a hard rule that if they don’t get in touch with me after the first time I contact them, then I don’t bother. I don’t want to come off as desperate or clingy when trying to get that second date.They usually say yes when I ask them in person, but I often find that not to be true and we don’t end up meeting again. There’s gotta be some kind of fine line to walk there, right? We all know that it’s hard enough to get a response to a first message, let alone an actual date. We’re not so keen about asking women on the first date whether they’d like to see you again. As most online daters know, it's not the first date that's hard to get — it's the second.But if you're dating because you want a relationship and not just a date, making a connection and getting that second date (and third and fourth) is the whole point.
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A straight San Franciscan in his 30’s wrote to us about the right way to follow up with a woman.
“I have no problems getting the first date, but I seem to be striking out lately when it comes to getting the second date. It’s usually midweek the following week when I’ll contact them to see if they want to go out again. I don’t think wanting to see someone the following week is too soon, but maybe I’m wrong.
Both of your profiles on most popular sites will require you to give the name of the town where she lives.
If she expresses an interest in meeting you, give her the name of the mutually convenient coffee establishment and the address.