“I don’t think Carey meant anything personally wrong with this. That’s the one thing that always came up when I’d discuss theories on declining marriage rates or the rise of the hookup culture with my friends or family. In reality, these values have ebbed and flowed throughout history, often in conjunction with prevailing sex ratios. Census Bureau’s American Community Survey, there are 5.5 million college-educated women in the U. between the ages of 22 and 29 versus 4.1 million such men. Among college grads age 30 to 39, there are 7.4 million women versus 6.0 million men—five women for every four men.
I wanted to show that god-fearing folks steeped in old-fashioned values are just as susceptible to the effects of shifting sex ratios as cosmopolitan, hookup-happy 20-somethings who frequent Upper East Side wine bars. One of my web searches turned up a study from Trinity College’s American Religious Identification Survey (ARIS) on the demographics of Mormons. Times have changed, and that is a good thing—especially the fading-away of cruel taboos that once stigmatized women who engaged in premarital sex or bore children out of wedlock. The values question assumes that sexual mores loosen naturally from conservative to liberal.The dating game is rigged, but the problem is not strategic â it’s demographic. Multiple studies show that college-educated Americans are increasingly reluctant to marry those lacking a college degree. It’s not that He’s Just Not That Into You—it’s that There Just Aren’t Enough of Him.Doubtfire and Matilda – called the article extremely misguided and under-researched, to say the least, and borderline dangerous at a time when this country has become fraught with increased antisemitism.” She told Purcell that “I am sorry you had trouble dating Jewish men.I bet the world’s tiniest fiddler on the world’s tiniest roof is playing for you.”Few in the twitterverse had anything nice to say – or any sympathy – for Purcell or Bonos.As when Purcell detailed her WASP credentials making her irresistible to the rebelling Jewish man: “I’m blond, often wear pearls, and can mix an excellent and very strong martini.Manners and etiquette are important to me, and when I’m stressed, I often cope by cleaning.” Or her interactions with one of her boyfriend’s mothers, who “was extremely overbearing, somehow getting my cellphone number and calling me, asking where her son was.”On Tuesday, Purcell broke her social media silence and published a blog post apologizing for the op-ed.“I am truly sorry I offended so many,” she wrote." data-medium-file="https://timedotcom.files.wordpress.com/2015/08/81i7k7x3-jl.jpg? quality=85&w=194" data-large-file="https://timedotcom.files.wordpress.com/2015/08/81i7k7x3-jl.jpg? quality=85&w=388" class="wp-image-4000670" src="https://timedotcom.files.wordpress.com/2015/08/81i7k7x3-jl.jpg? w=560&quality=85&w=321" alt="" width="321" height="496" Today, mainstream dating guides tell the everything-going-for-her career woman it’s her fault she’s still single—she just needs to play hard to get or follow a few simple rules to snag Mr. This bias is having a devastating impact on the dating market for college-educated women. Lopsided gender ratios don’t just make it statistically harder for college-educated women to find a match. According to sociologists, economists and psychologists who have studied sex ratios throughout history, the culture is less likely to emphasize courtship and monogamy when women are in oversupply.Heterosexual men are more likely to play the field, and heterosexual women must compete for men’s attention.New York Times writer Taffy Brodesser-Akner wondered if “maybe these Jewish men aren’t leaving you because you’re not Jewish as much as they’re leaving you because you hate Jews?” And Helen Rosner, a writer for The New Yorker, tweeted that “it’s definitely not super racist and pathologically narcissistic to write an op-ed in a major newspaper about how you’re done dating people of one specific religion, no sirree bob.”Chabad social media director Mordechai Lightstone tweeted a thanks to Purcell “for getting so many Jewish men to talk about dating Jewish women.”He lamented the way the article – and many stereotypes and portrayals – demonize Jewish women.