We can go for weeks without any time of sexual intimacy, but as soon as I mention I would like to find a guy online to have fun with us, his eyes brighten up and he is always ready for it!But with me it is always half-hearted and disinterested.Anything I say becomes an issue, and then he STOPS TALKING TO ME for days on end!Try asking what is wrong and the answer is always “Nothing, everything is fine, why? He is not jealous at all with other men, but this actually feels like he is not really interested in me and what I do.
If they cheat on you, they will blame it on something you couldn’t provide them. You start to feel like you are playing a game to which there are no rules and there is no way out. Your partner has to know where you are and what you are doing at all times. He or she might spy on you, check the messages on your phone, talk to your friends without you knowing, have people “check up” on you, hack into your email account or Facebook to see who you are talking to. But they make you feel like you have to stay with them no matter how they treat you, or that they can’t help the way that they act. No matter what they do, or have done, nothing is ever their fault. Don’t get me wrong, this is not an abusive, violent guy.They might lose their temper in the middle of a restaurant because they think you are flirting with the waiter. You’re not always sure what the problem is, but things never add up. If you follow what they say, things still don’t get better.They might bring up personal issues at inappropriate times. If you work hard to fix one thing, they will find something else that is wrong. They always have an excuse or a story or someone to blame: someone caused them to act the way that they did.They might tell you you are not allowed to hang out with a certain person anymore, or wear a certain shirt, or go to a certain restaurant. Because they have a depressing family life, come from a broken home, had parents that didn’t love them right, are in debt, can’t hold a job, have a disease, a psychotic ex, a broken heart, low self-esteem….whatever their story is, they will make you feel sympathy for it. As real as they might be, and as sad as they might be, they are a trap that keeps you stuck. Our relationship has been good for the most part (here’s me defending him…), but it is like a rollercoaster.Of course, your partner is allowed to do whatever he or she wants and you are not allowed to question them, but they will control everything you do. You can’t control what happened to them, and you can’t solve it for them. He is an incredibly smart and knowledgeable guy, but can’t do anything constructive with his life.I was a just boy when I met him and now I am a man, but everytime he is in the other room not talking to me for no reason (like now) I wonder what to do.And I know at some point he is gonna come out from there and “forgive me” for whatever I have done, and it will be all my fault and I will feel like a nutcase! Your partner will play into this, claiming that other people are just jealous of what you have or are just trying to bring you two down. For example, if someone hurts them, they feel they have a right to retaliate.If a teacher fails them, or a coworker says something bad about them, they feel entitled to revenge. It seems like your partner is two completely different people. Your partner finds faults with your friends or makes you feel bad or uncomfortable about any time you spend with other people. You want to believe that this is possible, but the cycle keeps repeating and each time your self-esteem is chipped away at, bit by bit. He might hit or kick your dog whenever he comes over. Each time he hurts you, he apologizes and promises that it will never happen again or that he will change. Your partner knows your weaknesses and he goes after your most vulnerable parts, hurting you where he knows it will do the most damage. You feel ashamed, lost, alone, confused, numb, afraid, crazy, stupid, ugly, fat, worthless, embarrassed, unloveable, wrong. Your partner tortures animals, is mean to children, or nasty to waitresses.