I can check that off my life to-do list and look for a man for love or companionship or sex – or all three. Whether the single part was by way of divorce, breakup, death or choice, it was a big deal, and that changed you. I have lunches to make and doctor appointments to schedule. Busy single moms have fewer lonely nights to fill, fewer dinners eaten alone. I am also far less critical of other people, including men. 3) You’ve faced the reason-defying triumphs that are required of single motherhood.You cook that spicy penne, you uncork a bottle of red, you put on the latest HBO megashow, bada bada bing!Or maybe you both sleep late then queue for brunch somewhere trendy, because you know that love means buying a girl overpriced avocado toast. When kids are in the picture, late nights and sleep-ins are probably no longer on the cards. You just need to rethink what you consider to be romance. Deal with it Want to be a part of a single mom’s life?So how can you make sure that you give it your best shot? Know that she’s got a lot on her plate When you’re dating a single mom, it’s not just about you and her.This may seem obvious on nights when she has her kids – but it’s something to keep in mind during her free time too. Flexibility is key – even on date night Started dating a single parent?READ MORE: For now, I’m content to be a single mom. Love on the spectrum: How autism brought one couple together When dating in your 40s, is it better to be divorced or never married?Through my circle of friends and single moms I meet through this blog, I often hear cries of horror about the thought of single mom dating. What man in his right mind would date someone with so much baggage? People are attracted to these single-mom qualities in a real, meaningful way. Now, I have reached many milestones in my career, relationships, and inner life. Listen: Other ways to listen: i Tunes ♦ Stitcher ♦ Tune In ♦ Sound Cloud ♦ Google Play Nothing breaks my heart more than a woman who cannot be without a man.
So, I’ll accept my friend’s offer, and be friends with benefits, except ones like hope or expectation.
) In this episode I share why being single is such an incredible opportunity you should not squander.
It doesn’t have to be forever, but if you couple-up right away, you miss out on so many opportunities for personal growth, new adventure, learning so much about yourself, others around you, and what your next relationship might be.
Don’t try to outdo them or replace them and, most of all, try not to feel jealous if she spends time with them. When it's early days, it’s vital that you be her partner first and a potential parent to her kids a very distant second.
You may not even get to meet them until she’s sure of you, and you need to be ok with that. Her introducing you and her kids is a true sign she’s smitten.