In addition, 51% of the women and 42% of the men said that during hook-ups, they’d discussed the possibility of proceeding to greater commitment.From Pregnant Puritans to Dating to Hook-Ups Every generation comes of age in a burst of sexual exuberance that includes casual sex their elders find unsettling.A University of Illinois survey found that 49% of college men and 38% of women reported having sex as a direct result of drinking.Canadian researchers (Fisher, 2012) asked college students about alcohol and hook-ups. As I’ve discussed previously [7.1.14], alcohol is a major factor in collegiate and military sexual assaults.Some women feel used during hook-ups—some men do, too. Those who fear that hook-ups threaten young adults’ well-being often assume that soon after, many—particularly women—feel regret.But according to this study, plenty of young women participate not because they feel exploited, but because they to. Several studies have documented post-hook-up regret: about regret, ignoring other possible reactions.As I came of age in the late 1960s and early 1970s, I had a few flings I later regretted. That’s also how young people learn to negotiate relationships.
Today’s twenty-somethings are doing what today’s 45-year-olds did 20 years ago, and, as far as this 66-year-old can recall, what today’s retirees did 40 years ago. Media reports imply that hook-ups involve intercourse.
Compared with sober lovers, those who are drunk are substantially less likely to use contraception. Any romantic/sexual coupling can generate feelings of hurt and regret, but a study at Syracuse University suggests that, far from feeling victimized, women who hook up are typically assertive actors.
(Not to mention that as intoxication increases, erotic pleasure usually decreases.) Incidentally, alcohol lubricates not just young adult hook-ups but also a great deal of sex among lovers of all ages. Older adults uncomfortable with hook-ups assert that they reflect young men’s fantasies of porn-style, free-for-all sex, while denying young women’s preference for committed relationships. The researchers (Fielder & Carey, 2010) asked 118 women undergraduates why they’d hooked up: in what my generation called one-night stands.
Canadian researchers (Herold & Mewhinney, 1993) confirmed this in a study of college students more than 20 years ago: How They Met, 1993 The two studies had different parameters, but it appears not much has changed.
Meanwhile, for college students, spring break remains prime time for hook-ups.