Relationships and marriage are important goals (why else would you be reading this book? When romantic relationships become an obsession or they are elevated to prime importance, you've got a problem.
Here's some sobering news: if you don't have a life of your own, you won't be happy even if you date, fall in love, and get married. Because you will have nothing to give to the relationship, and you will drain your dating partner (or spouse) completely dry.
I don't like new age dating when couples don't know if they are officially dating or wtf is going on.
Also, shave your beard exactly 4h26min prior to each date, get a haircut exactly 5 days and 5h before each date, and have 1 beer before each date. More applicable one would be "Spend reasonably as little as possible for first few dates.". Jesus Christ, just take her out to coffee lol I get that these are just guidelines but you shouldn't be afraid to be a bit more flexible.
Inevitably, you will put extraordinary expectations on the other to fulfill you, complete you, entertain you, and soothe you.
No created thing-certainly no human-can perform up to those outlandish expectations.
People with lives are not sitting around waiting to be swept off their feet.
In my experience, I was meeting with this girl for a couple of months, we had a great time (still do), so after 3 months I asked her to be my girlfriend (I knew beforehand she would says yes because she said many times she wants to be exclusive.).
Although it felt like she had torn my heart right out of my rib cage, it turned out to be one of the most valuable experiences of my dating life.
It was through that double dumping that I learned that the most important thing a person could bring to a relationship was a life. When you invest all your energy and self-esteem in getting a date or having a relationship, you don't have a life.
The Red Pill: Discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men. We know you won't, that's why you're easy to spot.
completely revised and updated, offers hope and sanity to singles who are sick and tired of the dating scene.