You like him, you like his friends, you like his moves in the bedroom. Then he sits you down and tells you that he has bipolar disorder.
The human habit of overestimating other people's happiness is nothing new, of course.We’ve been through all that therapy, and we’ve spent more than one session learning how to regulate our emotions.So say what you mean and how you feel, and we’ll figure out how to react.So remember Montesquieu, and, if you're feeling particularly down, use Facebook for its most exalted purpose: finding fat exes.So imagine that you’ve been seeing a man for a few months, and things are going great.For one thing, the site is inhabited by more women than men, and women users tend to be more active on the site, as Forbes has reported.According to a recent study out of the University of Texas at Austin, while men are more likely to use the site to share items related to the news or current events, women tend to use it to engage in personal communication (posting photos, sharing content "related to friends and family").(The book's broader theory is that technology, despite its promises of social connectivity, actually makes us lonelier by preventing true intimacy.) , women's happiness has been at an all-time low in recent years.O'Rourke and two University of Pennsylvania economists who have studied the male-female happiness gap argue that women's collective discontent may be due to too much choice and second-guessing–unforeseen fallout, they speculate, of the way our roles have evolved over the last half-century.By showcasing the most witty, joyful, bullet-pointed versions of people's lives, and inviting constant comparisons in which we tend to see ourselves as the losers, Facebook appears to exploit an Achilles' heel of human nature.And women—an especially unhappy bunch of late—may be especially vulnerable to keeping up with what they imagine is the happiness of the Joneses.