They too can be craving attention from a woman, to fill a gap in their emotional life – but that is less common the case for men as for women.These underlying motivations can be obvious to a young man or woman, but they can also be subconscious. It is the stirring of manhood and womanhood through adolescence that is heightening the interest in dating.They are craving the attention of a man in their life.Young men are often looking for an outlet for their growing physical desires and sexual urges.Hormones, emotional needs and a desire to be adult-like work together shape how a young man and woman will view the relationships in their life.The Idea of “Christian Dating”: When it comes to “Christian dating” those same underlying motivations still exist.The ultimate reason for dating is to find a spouse.Once you’ve found someone to marry and you get married, you no longer engage in dating.
How many men can you let into your heart as your “one and only” before you stop believing that you are truly capable of loving one man alone, unconditionally for life? Very little – apart from the regrets you might feel because you had given your heart, affection and perhaps physical intimacy to someone who is now not your husband.Dear Kim, Thank you for your excellent question and for your patience in waiting for my response!It is a relevant question, in a society that pushes dating at such a young age.I believe it’s important to step back from the pressures around you and take a good look at the whole issue of dating. I hope that by giving you such a full answer, it will open your heart to the counter-cultural approach I am proposing to you regarding romance, dating and courtship.The Purpose of Dating: What is the purpose of dating?He will easily discover that by playing on the girl’s emotional needs for commitment and security in the relationship, he can manipulate her to meet his needs.Even without consciously doing so, these dynamics can happen very easily and “innocently” in a dating relationship.Then they each have to find someone else in their life to fill their “neediness”.This is where “trial and error” or “serial” dating comes into a person’s life.The guy is fighting back the urge to fulfill his sexual desires.As a Christian he knows he is supposed to be practicing chastity, but he too begins looking for how far he can go to get some degree of satisfaction.