Now, millennials opt to “hang out” instead of go on traditional dates, and somehow, everything has become more casual.
There’s more time spent trying to figure out if someone is worth spending a portion of your life with rather than getting to know them.
Even more men say they know after about a couple dates or around the time they first sleep with a woman if they want things to go further. “You either want to spend more time together and get to know one another better, or you don’t, and it doesn’t take a few months to figure that out.” Many men say they just don’t think about having the talk because they just assume after seeing each other for about a month, the talk has become unnecessary and being exclusive is assumed. A study conducted by both Zoosk and Glamour asked 1,000 women and 1,000 men how long they thought you should wait before making things official.
Surprisingly, 75% of women thought you should wait at least a few months while 43% of men thought it would only take a couple of good dates. But a Google Consumer Survey conducted by Mic of 3,058 people last February found that the most common timetable for having the exclusive talk was just less than four weeks.
Instead, these numbers seem to be based on how long it actually takes for two people to bring up the conversation.
Could it be that they are simply waiting too long to talk to the guy, and are instead waiting for clarity to come their way out of the blue?There’s nothing worse than being in a new relationship only to realize that he/she is still swiping right on Tinder.Or, not being fully ready for an exclusive relationship only to have someone fantastic decide you’re not worth the wait.But that doesn’t mean time should dictate your emotions entirely.Decide what’s best for you, don’t get ahead of yourself, and never waste your time with someone that doesn’t realize your worth.In Europe, for example, casual dating or dating multiple people at once is looked down upon and very uncommon.Obviously, the conversation itself and the timing of it are extremely important.But the truth is that when we actually do find someone we’d like to date seriously, everything changes, and just like that it’s time to talk about being exclusive.Social media and technology have changed the dating game, and even the ways in which we woo have changed.For many men, the time spent waiting to have the relationship talk also varies.But overall, most men say they know whether or not they want to spend more time with a woman relatively quickly.